Act First, Feel Later: Steering Your Thoughts Through What You Do

You can't always pick what you feel. You can pick what you do next, and your mood often follows. This article covers two sets of moves. One turns negative feelings into motivation. The other keeps good feelings from going to your head.

Fighting Negative Feelings With Action

Sing when you're low. Singing can release endorphins and lift your mood. Do it when you feel down, not after you feel better.

Laugh when you're sad. Laughter shifts your perspective. Look for something funny, even in a bad mood, and the sadness loosens.

Push harder when you're ill. Doing more tells your mind that a temporary setback hasn't beaten you.

Walk toward fear. Act while you're still afraid. Each time you do, fear holds less power over you.

Dress well. How you look affects how you feel. Good clothes can make you more sure of yourself.

Speak firmly when unsure. Use your voice with conviction. Speaking that way gives you a sense of control.

Remember past wins when you doubt yourself. They remind you what you can do.

Go back to your goals when you feel small. Refocusing on them can bring back your motivation and your sense of purpose.

Keeping Feelings in Check

Overconfident? Recall your failures. They keep you grounded and stop arrogance.

Getting comfortable? Think about your competition. Knowing others are working keeps you from coasting.

Tempted to overindulge? Remember when you had little. It builds gratitude and curbs excess wanting.

Feeling great? Remember times you felt shame. It humbles you and makes you more understanding of other people.

Feeling invincible? Think about the wind. You can't control it, or other forces of nature.

Wealthy? Remember people still in need. It keeps your achievements in perspective and builds empathy.

Proud? Recall your weak moments. You'll be more grateful for how far you've come.

Conclusion

Negative feelings can be turned into motivation through what you choose to do. Pick the action that fits the feeling, and your mood tends to follow.

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